Wanted: Tact

March 16, 2007

I was studying at school with a couple of classmates, and since we study diseases it was not strange that the topic of death arose. A snippet of the conversation:

Allie: I don’t know what I’d do if my mom died, I seriously don’t know.
Ryan: Well, you’d cope and you’d move on, that’s just what happens.
Allie: Let’s hope so.
Me (to Ryan): Well, she could kill herself.
(A minute or so later I find out that Ryan’s mom died 2 years ago. Great.)

Or, take these conversations with David for example:
(FYI – this particular David is my boyfriend, NOT my brother, or my uncle, or the kid at church, or my good friend’s brother – all who are also Davids. Does this make life confusing? Yes it does.)

After he tells me a serious story about how his best friend and long-time girlfriend broke up and then she was killed a few days later in a car accident but he was still asked to be a pallbearer at her funeral because her family didn’t know they had broken up:
Me (with way too upbeat of a tone of voice): Man, that’s a bad week!

After we arrived at his house after work one evening having followed each other home in separate cars:
David: I waved at you in the car.
Me: I know, I waved back.
David: I blew you a kiss in the car.
Me: I know.

After very graciously rubbing my shoulders because I had a tension headache and I asked him to do so:
David: So how was that, was it horrible?
Me: I’ve had worse.
David: OK, just so you know, in the event that ten years from now we get married, any comment like that on wedding night will not be acceptable.

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Comments on Wanted: Tact

  1. 1

    From Scott:

    So has your life always been a Seinfeld episode, or is that just a result of dating David?

  2. 2

    From Nic:

    Kat… who are you dating???

  3. 3

    From Andrew:

    i’ve been doing a lot better lately, but about a week ago, one of my friends called me on my cell. we talked for an extended time about how sometimes she and her sister (both of whom speak a number of languages other than english) will from time to time go to a hip restaurant in the denver area. my friend has no shame, and will mock any idiot (like those people who wear absurdly coordinated outfits from abercrombie) that walks by and will often do so while the idiot is within full earshot. her sister, on the other hand, is not a pod, and often chides my friend about her habit.

    normally i’m more inclined to agree with my kramer-esque friend than her sister. not so much after this tho. i should take a class to learn whatever martial art helps one communicate effectively (by that, i mean defend one’s self) over the phone:

    friend: so while we were there, this lesbian with absurdly large breasts walks by…
    me: okay.
    friend: …i turned to (sis) and said “you know, she’s totally wasting those”…
    me: okay.
    friend: …seriously, every guy in there was looking at her…
    friend: …and there were plenty of straight girls who were trying to do more with a lot less, there too….believe me…
    friend: are you still there?
    friend: my sister didn’t think it was very funny, either.
    me: yeah, i really hate those idiots who wear abercrombie stuff everywhere.

  4. 4

    From Andrew:

    also, i just realized there’s no way to tell that story that isn’t an exercise in awkwardness.

  5. 5

    From Nic:

    Oh my goodness… that’s who I thought you were dating! Crazy! Well that’s great! And funny. And I’m jealous that your boyfriend’s parents are the Forbes. That’s about as awesome as it comes.

  6. 6

    From David F:

    I think you’re being too hard on yourself, Kat. If I went over everything I said in a given week that someone could have taken the wrong way, the blog could easily turn into a novella. I am worried that you’ve been watching too much Seinfeld though. Those New Yorkers can rub off on you if you aren’t careful. :)

  7. 7

    From Katy:

    Oh, man. I know too many Davids. Heheh.

    Did you check out the Web site I mentioned in my post? The YouTube videos are so strange.

  8. 8

    From Katy:

    OMG. Did you see the comment on my other blog? The Rational Response guy found my blog and made a comment on it.

  9. 9

    From Katy:

    I know! I couldn’t believe all the comments. I thought the Christians’ responses were kind of mean. To quote J.T., “Where is the love?”

    Of course, that Brian guy didn’t respond to my latest post, so I conclude that he isn’t really much for dialogue. Oh, well. The attention on my piddly little blog was fun while it lasted.

    FYI: the new Anne Lammot book comes out, um, Wednesday? I think. Thought you would like to know. Yay!

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