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  • life with kids & kittens

    life with kids and kittens

    Well, we are about two months into life with the kittens and I’m here with a progress report! I had never owned a cat before, so I have learned a LOT.

    First of all: we love them. Well, David is indifferent, but I myself really enjoy their happy furry presence, especially on the rare occasions when I’m home alone. They are often the first thing Meredith talks about when she wakes up or comes home. They are an endless source of delight for Liam.

    life with kids and kittens

    Kittens & Kids

    One reason we opted for kittens was because they wouldn’t be afraid of kids and they’d get used to life with them. Well, they are getting exposure for sure! I have been able to teach Meredith the right way to hold them, and she almost always makes sure to support their bodies from underneath now. She still has a tendency to squeeze them or just hold them tight when they obviously want to go play. She has gotten scratched more than a few times that way (and ringworm developed on one of the scratches), and sometimes she cries but most of the time it doesn’t bother her much. I do trim their nails every couple of weeks.

    I have to keep a closer eye on Liam or he will completely torment them. He just loves to pick them up by whatever he can grab. I am trying to show him how to be gentle and I do let him hold them if I place them in his arms the correct way. Sometimes I find random things in the litter box and he also loves to play in their food & water bowls which is super annoying. If he is showing interest in that I place a stool over them so that the cats can crawl under to get at the bowls, but Liam can’t really get through.

    life with kids and kittens

    Cost

    Let’s talk about how much they cost. We had their adoption fee waived, but I was prepared to spend a little money up front for supplies. I’d say we spent about $150-200 on that, including:

    • two litter boxes + scooper + liners
    • litter
    • food (dry + canned)
    • four bowls: 2 small for canned food, 2 large for dry food & water
    • one small scratching post
    • wand toy
    • collars (although they are too big still)

    The adoption included the kittens’ neutering, initial vaccine, and a free vet visit. One thing I hadn’t counted on, though, was that I’d have to pay for the rest of their vaccines since they were so young. We went back to the shelter for those; it was cheaper than the vet but we paid for it by way of waiting TWO HOURS to be seen. They each needed three vaccines on two separate occasions (three weeks apart) and so each visit cost me total $115. So that’s an additional $230.

    So far on an ongoing basis I am spending about $60-70 on food and litter every 3-4 weeks. I personally feel like this is too much and need to do some research on how to get it down. I was surprised that a large bag of litter only lasts a few weeks. They also really need another scratching post or tree or something. But anyway, as you can see these cats aren’t cheap.

    life with kids and kittens

    Training

    For about a month we had issues with the cats pooping outside of the litter boxes. I knew they were litter-trained because they used the boxes most often, and it was in random places and it was both of them. We kept them enclosed in a small room for awhile, used Cat Attract litter, and cleaned/deodorized the soiled spots thoroughly. For awhile it kept happening, and then slowly it just stopped. So my philosophy of “ignore it and it will go away” worked in this case. :)

    As the kittens grew they began getting more adventurous and mischievous. When they were tiny they couldn’t make it onto the counters, for example, but now they can. Currently we are still having problems with them getting on counters and tables – even trying to eat our food – so I keep a spray bottle handy. Hoping to train that out of them.

    life with kids and kittens

    Care

    Let’s be honest, most of the care for the kittens falls to me. As Meredith gets older I will definitely have her take some responsibility, but she’s not there yet.

    Since they are still growing we keep dry food out for them at all times, and I feed them each 1/4 can of wet food every morning and evening. I clean their litter daily (usually right after work) and fully change it once a week. As I mentioned, I trim their nails every couple of weeks. That’s about all the care they need on a regular basis!

    life with kids and kittens

    Other Thoughts

    • I had to start closing the door to our bedroom every night because they loved to pounce all over us when we were trying to go to sleep and they wake up way too early. I do miss out on kitten cuddles when they finally settle down, but right now I just need to sleep.
    • After having dogs all my life I can say that cats are definitely more low-maintenance. It’s nice not to have to let them outside to go to the bathroom and I know we can be gone all day without stress because they self-entertain (and especially with two of them, they stay very happy). We could even leave town for a few days and they’d be fine, I think.
    • They became friends right away and they LOVE to play together and cuddle together.
    • It’s weird to not know where they are at all times, because they like to hide. I know most of their favorite spots by now, though. They even crawl up into our sofa and recliner from underneath.
    • We are still getting used to the fact that we can’t leave any outside doors open at all.

    Overall, we really love our kittens. They bring us joy and add a little more fun to our lives. I don’t regret adopting them at all, but I do wish I had been a little more informed about the cost; I would have been a bit more prepared in that area!

  • a tip for spending less money

    how to save money

    In our house we are getting serious about paying off our debt and saving money. Funny how as soon as you tell yourself that you can’t spend anything, all you want to do is buy stuff! For real, though.

    I’ve long known that for us it’s the little stuff here and there that adds up, but it’s so easy to justify those small purchases. So when we cut out all extra spending recently, I had to find a way to deal with the urges to buy things. “Retail therapy” really does work in the short run, but since it’s not in line with my overall values I know I’ll regret it later. On the other hand, I know that if I just flat out deny myself, I’ll eventually feel oppressed or make excuses as to why a particular situation doesn’t count.

    This is what I began doing instead: when the urge to spend money arrives, I think about what’s causing it. What is that craving really for? And how can I satisfy it in another way?

    For example, the other night I had a strong craving for ice cream. (Let’s be honest, that happens every day.) But not only is that unhealthy, we didn’t have any ice cream in the house so I would have had to buy some. My first instinct was to suggest a frozen yogurt outing for the family. But I thought about it a bit more and realized what I really wanted was something cold and creamy. I had all the stuff at home to make a smoothie, so that’s what I did, and I was happy. Honestly, even just applesauce would have satisfied the craving at that point.

    Another example: I recently began feeling dissatisfied with the state of our house. I got all these ideas on how to refresh it, but they involved buying things: a new couch, a rolling cart, a rug, etc. So after realizing that I couldn’t do that, I figured out that what I really wanted was a bit of a change. Decluttering and reorganizing/repurposing what I do have will give me that same sort of high. So I scheduled a decluttering day, and for the things that I do actually need to add to our house, I’m searching the free section of Craigslist and Freecycle.

    So far this strategy is helping immensely. It’s also fun to keep track of the things that I didn’t buy, that I ordinarily would have, so I can see exactly how much we’ve saved. What are your best tips for saving money?

  • my de-stressing regimen

    It’s in my nature to be productive and to pursue many different interests. I truly enjoy so many different things, am highly goal-driven, and am constantly trying to achieve more, learn more, and be involved in more. For the most part I have felt like I have things balanced and under control.

    However, I’m honestly struggling as a mother lately. I don’t blame the kids at all, but my reaction to the tantrums hasn’t been good, and I have less and less patience as we go. It got to the point where I felt like I couldn’t handle it at all, and I was considering going to counseling just so that I could move past the rough spots and enjoy motherhood again.

    So far, though, I haven’t had to enter therapy because I am following some advice from my mother-in-law instead: to let some things go. As much as I believe in theory that we go through seasons in life, and this is the season where I’m a working mom with young children who are my priority, my thoughts and actions don’t always align with my values. I have about twenty different hobbies (okay, at least ten) and most of them aren’t kid-friendly. So I try to work on all of them in the extremely limited time that I have alone, and when I’m not working on them they are occupying far too much brain space. Even though I don’t realize I’m doing it, I’m putting pressure on myself to accomplish all these extra things.

    For example, my monthly goals. I love making them and planning for them and doing them. But most of them aren’t really necessary. I have low-level stress about achieving them and I worry about trying to fit them in. So then if the kids are giving me trouble that stress is amplified and I lose my patience and get super frustrated because my goals are being thwarted. So I’m dropping them.

    I’ve made an attitude change, but also some practical changes regarding my hobbies and lifestyle that have made this possible, and I wanted to go over those here.

    letting go of internal stress

    Blogging

    I’m definitely not giving up on the blog, but I’m changing my approach a bit. There are a few features that I’m keeping: book reports, Meredith lately, and Project Life spreads. On top of that, if I finish some sort of project I will probably post about it, and then I want to do weekly-ish  personal updates with photos, like the around here or currently series. And that’s it, unless I have the extra time and inspiration.

    Documenting

    Memory-keeping projects are important to me but are definitely something I can simplify. Starting now, I’m going to be using the Project Life app for my spreads and then printing the 12×12 layout. I think this will save a ton of time and I can do it on-the-go instead of needing dedicated time alone at home. As for any extra albums, I’m going to finish 2014’s December album (since I’m in the middle of it) and then I’m thinking of just doing photobooks for this year.

    Reading

    I’m in a book club that meets monthly, so I’m going to start listening to the audiobook for that (and I’m cutting back on the number of podcasts I listen to). That way any reading I do is just for pleasure.

    Home Life

    David is taking on some extra chores that I normally do. I’m going to simplify my meal planning and cooking; I’m still using frugal real food meal plans, but instead of trying so many new recipes I’m going to rotate our favorites and do one new one every couple weeks or so. For now, I’m not going to worry about extra decluttering or decorating unless it just happens organically.

    Miscellaneous

    I’m reducing the number of days I’m willing to drive to the medical center to work. Other crafts (such as needlepoint, knitting, and sewing) are just going to happen when I have spare time and really feel in the mood. In general, I’m just going to say no more.

    I haven’t been exercising lately, but I feel like that’s one thing that will actually improve my mood if I do more of it. So I’m going to make an effort to start running again 2-3 times per week, right after work. I also want to go on more dates with David.

    So that’s my plan, and so far I’d say it’s working. I feel a lot less internal stress and pressure, which in turn increases my patience with the kids.

    What are your strategies for when you feel like you can’t handle one area of your life? I’d love to know! Tell me I’m not the only one!

  • thirty-three

    Today is my birthday! I am 33. I love the number 3 so I just know this is going to be a good year. And Meredith is excited because she thinks I’m the same age as her. ;)

    I wanted to do a fun post to commemorate the day. There isn’t anything special going on because I have to work and am going to Bible study tonight; and in fact, it was a terrible morning, the worst in recent memory and I already cried once (ah parenthood!), but I am trying to move past that. Last weekend we went out to eat at Cheesecake Factory with my family, my work had a birthday lunch for me yesterday with cake, and this weekend we’ll be having a birthday dinner with David’s family. So that is all really fun.

    Here are some things that were on my birthday wish list. I’m definitely not getting them all, but wanted to share regardless:

    birthday wish list

    1. There are some makeup products I’ve been wanting to try. Using a gift card I purchased this mascara (I needed a new bottle and wanted to see if this measures up to my favorite) and got a sample of this tinted moisturizer. So far I’m loving it and I have the full size on the way. I have also been noticing in the past year that my brows are kind of thinning so I’d like to try out some sort of brow…pencil? I don’t know what you call it because I have never ventured into this arena before. Anyway, this is the one I think I’m going to purchase at some point.

    2. I just really, really want to treat myself and wear amazing underwear. A set of these briefs is expensive but I’ve been saving up and I think I might take the plunge.

    3. Knitting classes and supplies. I already mentioned that my mom is getting me this. It’s even more special because it’s something we will do together.

    4. Earrings. I am a stud-wearing girl, but I seem to always be losing one earring so at the moment I only have a pair of gold ones that I love. I mostly wear silver though, so I really want some small studs like this.

    5. Spa services. Pedicure, massage. Always appreciated.

    6. A running jacket. This looks like a good one. Right now I’m borrowing one from a friend but I’d like to get myself fully geared up for year-round running. (I’d also like more tank tops and shorts for summer as well as a new sports bra.)

    I didn’t want David to really spend money on me because we are trying to be smart financially, but he did get me flowers and a super sweet card and a Starbucks gift card. He can’t help but treat me a little bit and I love him for it! What I asked for from him is for us both to take this Myers-Briggs personality type test, and then to discuss our results in depth while on a date (which is happening this weekend). I feel like we know each other pretty well, but I think this will be fascinating and informative, while also helping us communicate better and strengthen our marriage. I asked for this for my birthday so he would be sure to say yes! To me it sounds super fun, but I know he might not think so. ;)

    How do you like to celebrate your birthday? I used to try to celebrate all week (a la Gilmore Girls) but it’s gotten harder to do so as I get older and have more responsibilities. But I still do love birthdays. :)

  • LIGHT : january

    one little word : LIGHT / january

    Necklace from this Etsy shop and I love it.

    I am one month into the year of living with the word “light,” and I wanted to share a bit about how this process is going for me. In our prompts this month (for the class run by Ali Edwards) we set intentions and there were some suggested categories to focus on, so that’s how I’m going to structure these update posts.

    spiritual

    what’s been going well : so far I have been keeping up with my scripture memory challenge (one verse every other week), volunteering to help out at church, being involved in our life group and my own personal Bible study.

    still weighing on me : here’s the thing. Being a light and being filled with the light aren’t items you can tick off a to-do list. This is a lifelong pursuit and all I can do is try to be obedient and do better. The one thing that I really want to do better with is praying. I want praying to be such a part of my life that I do it like breathing.

    physical

    what’s been going well : running has definitely been a positive part of my life. I have one more half marathon to run on February 7 and then I’m going to stick to shorter races. I hope to incorporate other forms of exercise at that time.

    still weighing on me : I haven’t been curbing my sugar intake lately and I’d like to clean that up.

    emotional

    what’s been going well : I started personal journaling again on a private blog. I still hand write in my prayer journal sometimes, but this is much more effective for me on a daily basis. I also conquered a few nagging tasks this month.

    still weighing on me : the weather wasn’t good for most of the month and it got kind of depressing. I overbooked myself for a few weeks (granted, we have six close family birthdays in January that had to be celebrated, sometimes in multiple ways). We haven’t made any progress toward paying off debt, and I am very low on PTO at work because of sicknesses.

    relationships

    what’s been going well : several times when I felt my patience running thin with the kids, and I could tell I was about to lose my cool, I thought to myself light light light and took a deep breath and was able to stay calm.

    still weighing on me : I definitely still struggle to stay gentle with the kids, especially Meredith, since she can be so intense. David and I haven’t had a date night in quite awhile, and I am working on not taking out on him any grumpiness I may feel.

    creative

    what’s been going well : I have a memory-keeping framework set in place now that makes me feel confident (will share soon) and keeping up with editing/ordering photos relieves a lot of stress. I am happy with where this blog is. I am excited about getting knitting supplies & lessons for my birthday.

    still weighing on me : just being behind on projects and trying to let go of that self-imposed pressure.

    Here is how my album is shaping up:

    one little word album : january / kapachino

    It’s an 8.5 x 11 album, and I plan to use it every year until it gets full. I’m hoping I can get 3-5 years in here.

    one little word album : january / kapachino

    one little word album : january / kapachino

    one little word album : january / kapachino

    one little word album : january / kapachino

    one little word album : january / kapachino

    one little word album : january / kapachino

    This project is a little bit creative but mostly reflective. The album isn’t the focus but I appreciate having a place to keep all my thoughts gathered, and working on the prompts – creative or reflective – will help me keep my word in mind throughout the year.